(somewhat inspired by this great post)
cw for #abuse , #abuse apologism , #victim blaming and all the stuff that goes w/the topic
I’ve talked about this before, but really, I am so sick of people pretending that Peter’s status as an abuser is optional or up to discussion/personal preference. I’m sick of people thinking they can just create an AU, tag it as “Peter is good”, and ignore the abuse he put Scott and Lydia through.
there is no acceptable reason to ignore Peter’s deeds. it’s abuse apologism, plain and simple, and even if he’s a fictional character, he’s still yet another white man whose privileges allow them to literally get away with murder, abuse, assault, etc.
this especially irks me when people pretend to care about abuse when it comes to Derek, and there are never AUs where Kate is just Allison’s slightly creepy aunt. she’s always an abuser, and that’d be ok, it’s good to hold her accountable! but why is Peter not?
you’re insinuating there is no universe where Kate could be anything but an abuser but w/Peter, people don’t even need to create an AU, they can write canon divergent fic and neatly sweep everything he’s done under the rug. (not to mention, the idea that Peter could be good is based largely on this “sane Peter” trope, the assumption that his abusiveness is caused by mental illness, which is absolutely ableist and fucking bullshit).
what I’m getting at here is that if you think Peter’s abuse is something that can be ignored, you’re saying the assault and abuse Scott and Lydia experienced can be ignored, aren’t worth mentioning, didn’t affect them tremendously. yet at the same time people write fic where Derek basically hates women and sex and intimacy forever because of Kate, but Scott and Lydia get hated on because they dare to show any reaction to their abuse and abuser.
whether Peter is or isn’t bad is not up to debate. he’s an abuser, the end. if you erase the things he’s done, you’re an abuse apologist, the end. don’t pretend to care about abuse victims when all you do is use us for your misogynistic and/or racist hate of women and characters of colour.